Mexico! Stop! Please! For the love of God! I can’t take any more gorgeous, charming, walkable colonial cities! I thought the drive here would cure my blisters and let my leg cramps unwind. And they did just a little. And then you threw Puebla into my path. Cunning move, Mexico. You intrigued me with Monterrey, which proved surprisingly interesting. And then in Zacatecas, you wore me out with the hills and the enchanting 18th century architecture and wonderful people, and deceptively walkable streets. And Chicomóztoc was a sneaky blow too. Those hills didn’t look nearly that daunting from below, but once I was halfway up, you knew I couldn’t stop, and you chuckled quietly to yourself. ¡Dale, Gringo!
And now? You’ve thrown me into the thick of Puebla and I can’t stop. Everywhere I turn, there’s a good mile of charming facades, artfully blending architecture from the sixteenth, seventeenth, eighteenth, and nineteenth centuries. OK, I’ll forgive you a few of those twentieth century horrors that snuck in; they’re easy enough to overlook, and they’re all at least a few blocks out from the Zócalo. I’m sure when they were built, some of those old beauties had outlived their charm, and had fallen into a state of not-so-genteel decay. I understand that some folks wanted airconditioning and elevators. It’s ok. They are small slip ups. You’re forgiven.
But please! I need rest. Yet you call me from every street. There are tiled facades. There are basketweave brick facades. There are stucco facades painted in every imaginable color with stone door and window frames. There are elegant 18th and 19th century French-style buildings, with elegant, mannered stonework, beautiful arches, angels smiling out from the cornices. There are open doors with patios, cool fountains, and lush flowers just beyond. And the sixteenth and seventeenth century churches are very, very clever, Mexico. Give me a little rest by sitting in a church for a spell, meditating on the past, present and future. How many souls have come here for redemption in the past several centuries? How many weddings? How many funerals? How many more will come long after this weary traveler reunites with the dust from whence he came? Yes, you give me a little rest in these places, and then you lure me farther and farther away, until I’m miles from my hotel. Oh Mexico, you are a temptress of the first order.
Yet I can’t stop. Now dusk is approaching, with that marvelous, golden light so desired by photographers. Street lights start to come on. Windows begin to softly glow. Ah, there’s no way now that I can rest until the sun has fully set and the sky is black. Quick, Kim! Run! The light won’t last! Hurry! Hurry! Finally the light fades, and I think I’ll get a rest. I pause to sit on a bench. Ah, but wait. Even darkness brings no rest, Mexico, because you’ve put uplighting on all the buildings. You’ve illuminated the fountains. And you’ve filled the Zócalo with late-night restaurants, full of cheerful revelers, mariachis, street performers, and children selling chiclets.
Please I beg you! Let me rest! I’m ready to drop! And then at 10:00 PM you play your trump card. A handsome stranger, smiling at me from next to where they’re filming a movie. I try to ignore him. But you, Mexico, you know that he will prove irresistible. You know I’m lost, and you know that despite having a map in hand, and despite having walked around the orderly streets, I’m hopelessly disoriented. And you know the handsome stranger really wants to help me, as he keeps looking at me and smiling, ever-so-sweetly. I try to resist. I really do. I even put on my reading glasses to read the map, but it’s hopeless. I’ve already been back and forth several times over the same streets, and I still can’t find Las Ranas taqueria, even though I know it’s no more than 5 blocks away. I look up. He’s still looking at me and smiling.
“Discuple. Estoy perdido.” “Excuse me. I’m lost,” I say, finally admitting defeat and approaching him. “Can you tell me how to get to Las Ranas? It’s here on the map, but I’m disoriented.”
“Hola. Si, te puedo ayudar — Hi, I can help you,” he says. I hand him the map, and he studies it. “How about if I just walk you over there?” Oh Mexico! I didn’t even see that one coming. No way!
“Are you sure? I don’t want to inconvenience you.”
“No, I would love to go with you. Let’s go,” he says smiling ever more broadly at me.
“Would you like to join me for dinner? My treat.” I say, figuring the least I can do is buy this fellow some tacos. And I’m really grateful for the company.
It has been a delightful day, but I’m a bit starved for conversation. People here are nice enough, but it’s a big city (1.3 million) and the small-town friendliness of Zacatecas is nowhere to be found. People are polite, but I’ve had many fewer of those little conversations that spiced up my days in Zacatecas.
It turns out that Edgar is originally from Oaxaca, and has only lived here for two months. He’s a masseur, ayurvedic healer, and also does feng shui, the Chinese art of putting things into harmonious order. He’s also an artist and writer and claims to have written four novels and to be working on a fifth. I don’t ask if they’ve been published, but I’m impressed nonetheless. I mention my blog and photographs, and the time just flies by. We discuss writing, spirituality, karma, reincarnation, religion, and his own journey through Mexico. He’s moving from place to place, experiencing different things, different people, just as I am. His schedule is different. Before Puebla, he spent two years in Tehuacán, building up a client base, doing massages, consulting on ayurvedic practices and selling beads, crystals, incense, and the various other accouterments of such a lifestyle. But he got involved in some politics and refused to “play ball,” so he left. Here he expects to spend another two years or so, and then will move on, though where to is unclear.
We finish dinner. Though exhausted, I’m extremely happy. The conversation keeps flowing. We decide to go for a drink. He keeps smiling at me in the most disarming fashion, and I can’t help but smiling back. He holds my hand. I’m melting, slowly forming a helpless pool on the floor. He comes back to the hotel with me. I am fully defeated, but also ecstatic. Together, Morpheus spirits us away to dreams and a night-long embrace.
Colonial Puebla is a Stunner! I’ll never forget being completely awestruck by the beauty of capilla del Rosario then being met with a limbless beggar as I left it, Mexican surrealism at its best.
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Adrian, I totally agree. After spending years going to DF every couple of months, I wonder why I didn’t spend more time in Puebla. F and I went once in 2006, and only spent a couple of hours. Thanks for your comment. Saludos.
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” And you know the handsome stranger really wants to help me, as he keeps looking at me and smiling, ever-so-sweetly.”
Kim! Have you checked your common sense at the border? I have spent the entire day resisting writing this, but I must. You’re a nice guy, you’re an intelligent guy, and we know you’ve been looking for friendship and a relationship. Now, for all we know and hope, Edgar may be a paragon of virtue, but what you have done is just plain dangerous. And dumb. You’re not 22 years old, you project an air of affluence and sophistication, and you could be setting yourself up. You are taking risks that any grown man or woman should not be taking in this century. Give yourself some time to get to know this chap, in public places, and without disclosing everything there is to know about yourself. Geeze.
I’m not going to say anything more.
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An email, instead of a comment on the blog may have served the purpose better.
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But an email would not have conveyed her useful information to others.
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Everyone should keep in mind that my post is an artistic rendition of events; it’s not a transcript. There are loads of details about the situation, the people, etc that I can base real-time decisions on. Alas, including all that detail would not lead to a charming blog post. So what you read may seem more or less risky than actual events.
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Jennifer wrote “in this century.” I am sure she meant to write “in this country,” an important difference. Mexico is very different from the U.S., and some of those differences are not pretty. And many (I think most) Gringos who move down here, and 100 percent of those who just visit, tend to be charmed by superficialities. They mistake our frequent smiles for genuine friendliness. Sometimes it is. Often, it is not. Kim seemed mystified somewhat at the interest of the lad Enrique in Zacatecas. Wasn’t mystifying to me in the slightest. Enrique, understandably, is hunting a better life. Connection with Gringos is usually seen as a potential better life. Nothing wrong with that goal, but it’s smart to be aware of it.
Jennifer, rightly, thinks heading off alone at night with someone you hardly know in Mexico, especially when you are traveling solo and nobody will miss you immediately, is something to be done with your eyes wide open, with caution. It is wise advice.
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Y’all need to keep in mind that I do speak Spanish fluently, way better than many expats who have lived here for years (you and possibly Jennifer excepted), have had a Mexican BF for 7½ years, have spent endless time hanging out with him and his Mexican friends, and thus have heard many, many horror stories first-hand. And I’d say that many of the expat bloggers live in a bubble, unaware of these realities. I’m not in that bubble; I love Mexico, but my eyes are wide open. And I’m not going to get into a long, tiresome explanation of risk-control, but rest assured, risk control is in place. I should also add, that when I was a pre-teen, my mother bought a house in a tough, African-American neighborhood with the worst crime stats in the Bay Area. I was once mugged there, but quickly wised up. I’m not a suburban ingénue ready to be victimized by the first bad boy who comes along. I’ve lived in dangerous, inner cities my entire adult life. All that said, I have no illusions. Something could indeed happen. It could happen on the street in the evening with a charming stranger. It could happen on the street with a total cretin during daylight. It could happen on the autopista. Heck, anyone who knows Mexico knows that I could be victimized by cops, something as rare as hen’s teeth north of the border. But when I decided to make this trip, I accepted all of those risks. I’ve done everything I can to mitigate them, but at the end of the day, they remain. And I remain alert and ready to deal with them as best I can.
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Jennifer: Thanks for your concern. I’m not exactly running around Mexico in a Brioni suit; more like jeans and T-shirt. What you know from the blog is very different than what a stranger would initially perceive. At the end of the day, we all have to live at a risk level that makes us feel alive. I guess you and I have different risk levels we live at. But that said, I truly do appreciate the kindness and concern that your comment reflects. Saludos.
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I believe you were wearing jeans and a T-shirt when we talked here some years ago, not a Brioni suit, whatever that is. Kim, you have well-heeled Gringo written all over you, no matter the attire.
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I remember making life-long relationships in the space of five minutes with men I met on the street corner (well, make that at a KFC, the grocery store line and in bars) back in the day, too. But that was also during the Nixon-Ford Administration, and times are different today. There are those of us who do worry about other gringos who attempt to exercise those behaviors we deployed back in their salad days when they’re visiting Mexico and other foreign lands. I just want you to be able to return to Boston, having had a good, enjoyable and safe adventure in my country.
I’m going to sleep better knowing that you were just practicing some artistic license in your blog rather than giving us a transcript. And you know that yentas will always be yentas. Just don’t let your guard down, and don’t take those nice, sweet smiles at face value. Now, go out and have a good time!
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Ahhhhhh… I can see that love is in the air and another Gringo has just been hopelessly seduced by the many enchantments of Mexico.You belong here now!
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I am being drawn, ineluctably to the same conclusion. Thanks for your comment. Abrazos!
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So, how were the tacos al La Rana?
Saludos,
Don Cuevas
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Hola Don Cuevas! You know, we haven’t made it there yet. That first night, we got there too late, and they were cleaning up after everyone had left. But I hope to eat there before we leave. According to TripAdvisor it’s one of the top 5 restaurants in Puebla. Thanks for commenting! Saludos
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If only I could get directions when I need them in Merida. People just pretend I’m not there when I approach. Must be that natural Mayan reserve.
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Lee, that’s too funny! Would you understand the directions if you got them? Of course if some cutie took your hand and led you to where you wanted to go, I’m sure you’d find your way. Question is, though, how happy would Paul be with that solution? Saludos!
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Well, Paul is fluent in Spanish, and he was the one approaching people for directions. And I’m sure there are days he’d be happy to offload me to some cutie in the street.
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You just have to hope, then, that one of those days coincides with an available cutie, LOL.
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En tus sueños.
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Kim. I love what you say and what you don’t say….
Paul spent three weeks in Puebla for language classes and fell in love with the city, I haven’t visited yet. Soon, I hope.
I think you need to join the ranks of happy Mexico expats… sounds like you love it as much as we all do.
But come to Mazatlan soon, please?
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Hi Nancy! Thanks for commenting. Yes, I am LOVING it. Edgar and I met for dinner last night again, and the time just flew by. And I’d love to see Mazatlán again and meet you all too. Let’s see how it all goes! Saludos and thanks for the kind comment.
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Kim G – A hopeless romantic with a silver tongue. Stay out of trouble hombre. Come on over the hill and see the charms of Xico-Coatepec and Xalapa; dripping with charm 😉
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Hola John. Meeting Edgar will definitely make it harder to move on in this trip. But I will definitely make it to Xico. Saludos.
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I was trying to choose a favorite photo but I can’t, they’re all intriguing for different reasons. Street scenes always give me a strong sense of being there. I really like the way you captured movement, and the vibrancy of the tiled facades.
I can also picture myself sitting quietly “en la capilla”, the painting and old statues are amazing to just stare at, there is so much detail. Old churches are special – they project a personal sentiment, from the outside in and from the inside out.
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Hi Andean! Thanks so much for the kind words on the photos. I do put a lot of effort into them, so it makes me happy that people are enjoying them. If I had more time, I’d put more up on Flickr, but alas, it’s a pretty busy schedule as it is. Perhaps after I get home. Saludos!
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They’re fine right here. I just click to enlarge. The photo images are very clear.
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Thanks! But there are lot of nice pictures that aren’t on the post. That’s what I was thinking of.
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Your experiences just comes alive on the page. And Edgar — friendly, stimulating, fascinating. What a delight! And dessert late into the evening….
So happy for you! Please, keep the wonderful vignettes coming. These intimate experiences are what bring traveling to stupendous heights.
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Hi Dave! What’s on the page is nothing compared to being here, let me assure you, LOL. Edgar and I met for dinner again last night and had a WONDERFUL time. Thanks for commenting! Hugs, K
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You’re a funny fellow. I enjoyed reading this. Keep it up, and you’ll have to sell that Boston abode and move south. It really is better here.
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Felipe: There really is lot to be said for here. I’d never have met someone like Edgar in Boston. Saludos.
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And I would never have met anyone like my child bride above the border either.
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Wow! All I can say is that you have outdone yourself in your writing style. Poetry in prose.
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Hi Bill! Thanks so much. I’m REALLY enjoying this trip, and once I get started, the posts seem to write themselves. Edgar and I will dine again this evening. I am a lucky man! Saludos.
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